Tuesday, March 29, 2011
deconstructing a life
a good friend of mine is undergoing extreme transition. his job has been phased out. it happens to so many of us. but when your profession is specialized, it's not like you can just run out and get another one. there is a process to be followed. most likely there will be continued education (not so easy for us 40+ers). he is most likely going to have to move to pursue his education and further employment elsewhere. after all, there aren't that many jobs here in montana...and fewer still of the specialized variety.
he wonders, "will i even be able to make it?" and "will i end up a pauper the rest of my life?" "is there room at the mission for me?" well, the last question won't have to be considered since he has many friends who have offered to open up their homes to him (including myself). however, he is taking it all very hard. and who could blame him? his life's work is hanging in the balance. decisions have to be made.
he's decided to start fresh. he's giving all of his worldly belongings away, save for a dear few necessities, so to ensure an easy transition to where ever it is he will end up. it's hard for him. he's a collector. a collector of memories, furniture, clothes, and things that make him feel at home. it's hard for me to watch, being a collector myself. but, i'm helping him in any way i can. helping him sort. pack. deliver items to new owners.
he is often quiet. introspective. unsure. that, i think, is the most difficult thing to watch. he's a very independent person, so watch...and be there...is all i can do. every spare moment this week as been spent at his side. will continue to be so until we are done deconstructing his life. it's very painful. watching someone condense their life into a few boxes...
i can't help but wonder, "what if it were me?" hopefully, i will never have to find out.
p.s. my internet connectivity still languishes while the evil at&t trashes alltel's connections in favor of their own. looks like it may be a month before this is all said and done with. i am not happy with them! i am looking for other options...but will most likely resume regular posting as soon as my friend is finished with needing my help during this move. i may not be able to connect through my own network, but i can always take my laptop to a local hotspot and connect there. don't know why i didn't think of this before!